Some revelations: Is sex bad?

Having been raised in a Catholic community, the appreciation of sex is very much confined within religious contexts.

Promiscuity is viewed as the devil's work and much more so if you are gay - you will be satan yourself.

However, my travels abroad have gradually changed my perception of sex although I still remain reluctant in some areas like having multiple partners or orgy-mongering. My religion-bound upbringing still influences my decisions.

Nevertheless, I have some revelations to tell about my sex life. In whatever way you view it, you may either post your comments here or just keep it to yourself.

One thing I want to be clear about is that I am not your ever-horny guy who needs a shag so often that he will have a bad day if he doesn't get one. With or without it I still feel adequate in my sex life. The hand remains my best friend in times of need.

I have tried threesome when I was in my mid 20's. It was a novel activity for me and I did enjoy it for a couple of times. The only drawback I found was how to synchronize everyone so nobody will be left behind. At some point you will feel awkward if you are getting more pleasure than the others. Well, if you are very appealing compared to the other two then it works to your advantage. But I don't like inequitable distribution of pleasure. I didn't engage in threesome anymore after that.

Is having sex with a muscular and good-looking guy your fantasy? I believe it is everybody's. It is a wonderful feeling if someone with Adonis' characteristics craves for you. My only complaint is as much as it is pleasurable and realizes your fantasies you don't want to get attached as you would surely be on the losing end. Being very romantic and sweet, I find this really difficult to deal with. I can't help forming a bond.

My experiences have become varied when I left the country. I used to be very conservative about my partner's nationality or race. However, my preference changed when I worked abroad. I have slept with guys of Indian, Pakistani, Kiwi, Slovakian, Irish, Australian, Swiss and Fijian decent. APPALLING? At this point your thoughts must be racing on the idea of STDs. Yes, it is a risky situation. However, I don't swing around like a care-free guy who doesn't think of his future. You must always be armed properly. The highlight of these encounters is that you will learn that whatever the race or nationality the sexual act remains the same.

Just a quick disclaimer: I don't have sex that often in my life as it so appears. These accounts are spread out over eight years. In between, I had serious relationships that have shaped a balanced and healthy appreciation of sex.

Having said that, my ultimate realization is: "there is no greater feeling than MAKING LOVE with someone".

If you invite me for sex for the sake of it, it will take some time before you can coax me into getting into bed with you - if you catch me in the right mood. I don't feel that rush with just anyone whom I don't have a connection to however good looking or wealthy you are. In the same token, I'd rather cuddle with you than doing it all the way down. And if I have formed a bond with you then I take it from there. I don't get a hard on that easily. I must be enamored with you.

SEX isn't bad as what religion has taught us. It is about how you manage your sexual desires and making sure it doesn't dictate your actions. Rather, you must be in control. This is where you draw the line between being promiscuous and expressing your sexual desires. Sex is good because it strips you down to your basic form - you are a human being not too far apart from the rest of the animal kingdom.