On Valentine's Day: What has love got to do with it?

Guys and gals would smirk when I say what has your feeling go to do with your commitment?

Take it from a hopeless romantic like me whose personality is candy-coated.

I did believe once that relationships are just a function of one's feelings than anything else. When we feel strongly for somebody our heart gets pumping harder than usual. We feel pain, we feel anger, we feel utmost satisfaction. The enamored feelings skyrocket especially in the honeymoon stage. The promise of commitment is so steadfast we are willing to do stupid things in the name of love.

However, there is a point when the continuum starts to break. Then you ask: We saw nothing but heaven when we met but now we are in hell. What happened to our love?
But what has love got to do with it, really?

Feelings are like radio-waves. Like our moods, it sways from one side to the other. It is so unpredictable. And feelings are affected by so many factors it can change many times in one day. That being said, are our feelings that reliable?

I don't believe so.

However, there is one aspect about our being human that will spell the difference. Decissiveness!

Am I saying that love is a decision? YES.

I have heard this from my ex of five years and I didn't buy his story then.

Not until I have reached a point in my life wherein I started to question my own capacity to keep that lovin' feeling consistent every millisecond. Frustratingly, it doesn't stay strong all the time. Falling out of love may be hours away.

To decide that you want to love someone is the only key for lasting relationships. Once you make that decision, you will acknowledge the responsibility that goes with it then feelings will profess by itself. Your commitment will not anymore be dictated by the fleeting emotions but by the fact that you have made that decision and will abide by it.

It may sound too stern but think of a relationship as any type of commitments you make in your life: your job, your family, your friends and yourself. When you commit to any of those, you do make decisions, right? The same holds true for love.

That is probably the best reasoning of why the head is above the heart.

We think then we feel.

Although the only difference about love is that it gives us the greatest and highest form of happiness. Thus, deciding to love someone is the most important decision you will ever make.

So what love has really got to do with it?